Dating is not for the faint of heart. It eats at your self-esteem. It can be downright disheartening. This is even worse when dating the wrong person.
correction: BELOW (I had BELLOW...look it up its funny!) I list the scenarios where I was clearly dating the two wrong guys.
The other person likes you more than you like them.
It is difficult to survive this scenario without looking like a jerk. Recently I met a guy who from day one was 1000% sure that I was the love of his life. REALLY!? He did not even know if I snore. Any chance he got he would use to testify to the deep connection he felt we had. Or else to tell me how perfect I was for him.
It felt as though I was constantly on the spot. I felt obligated to return the compliments and what is worse the affection. But I did not. I felt like a jerk.
Flattery is reason enough to stick around. But I also stuck around simply to see if I could somehow grow the same affection he felt for me. Sadly the opposite occurred. Soon his sweet way began to get on my nerve.
The other person does not like you as much as you like them.
Then there is the situation where a guy likes you less than you like him. This too is nerve wrecking. While living in Los Angeles I met a guy who did not like me as much as I liked him.
It was not obvious at first. But early on he initiated the “lets take it slow” conversation. Now don’t get me wrong slow can be good. However, our situation was so slow that he would make excuses for why we could only hang out once every few weeks. This of course is not the only sign that he was not feeling the connection.
It seems to me that a relationship that is headed on the right path would include a lot of desire and passion, especially during the initial stages. For us this lasted about two day. After that it was, hanging out with friends and awkward hugs. Within the first month it felt as though we were simply buddies or an old couple.
For the record I don’t think the guy was a jerk. I think he really tried to find a connection that simply was not there.
Don’t string the other person along or allow them to string you along. If you are not feeling the connection then let them go. If they are treating you like a buddy then get a clue and call it what it is. A friendship!